No, I am certainly NOT refined. While I can certainly play the part when necessary, it nauseates me to have to censor my words and behaviors for fear of “offending” another. I am who I am, and I will never apologize for being me. I love me. Being crude isn’t a bad thing. After all, who has the right to tell us what we can and can’t think or feel? That goes against the most basic tenets of human nature. It is human nature to judge ourselves and others. How we express those judgments, however, is what separates people who are honest with those who are rude. While some are cowardly and catty and choose to talk behind others’ backs, I personally feel that confronting situations head-on is the best and most effective way to move on. And confronting someone does not necessarily mean attacking their character; it’s more a matter of expressing your own feelings about something, whilst simultaneously respecting the feelings of the other party or parties involved.

We all judge each other. Even though I pride myself on being extremely non-judgmental, that goes out the door when I see things that are blatantly fucked up. For example, IF you sleep with your friend’s ex-boyfriend, I will judge you harshly and not apologize for it. Ever. IF you turn your back on someone when they are in need, again, I will judge you harshly. IF you talk shit about supposed friends, and then post pics of yourselves acting like best friends, I won’t judge. Instead, I’ll just shake my head, chuckle, and think about all the shit-talking you’ve done behind each others’ backs… to me….Which brings me to a good point. IF I were truly crude and vulgar, I would exploit such crap in a group text and then sit back and watch the shit show with some popcorn and a large glass of cranberry juice. (God, I love cranberry juice). IF I WERE truly crude and vulgar, I would publicly blast you, BY NAME, for being a shameless whore who is the total ANTONYM of a friend. I would also point out that you will most likely grow old with a lot of cats and STDs… but that’s not me, either. Instead, I keep that shit between me, and my SB. Everyone needs a SoundBoard (SB), so I don’t consider that talking behind their back – if you tell more than one person, THEN it’s shit-talking, but, nothing I have ever said to my SB would I be afraid to say to the person in question’s face, so again, I must disagree with the woman’s accusation.

I’m most certainly NOT ashamed of how I treat people. People ask how they want to be treated through their actions and their words. But as the adage goes, “Actions speak louder than words,” so if you ACT like a $2 whore, I will treat you like one. If you ACT like an idiot, I will dumb down my vernacular for you. Of course, our friendship will be brief, because I can only talk like an idiot for so long before my brain wants to explode. If you ACT like a nice, fun person, then I will treat you the same way. If you ACT like a sophisticated, uptight Snooty McSnooter, I will make it my mission to ACT as inappropriately as possible, just to get you to loosen up. Not as loose as a $2 whore, but at least loose enough to not be afraid to laugh at something you KNOW is fucking funny, even if the ladies at tea time do not.

Ok – that was the first comment by this person. Let’s examine Part II, shall we?

“Although I do find your posts extremely rude they are very entertaining. But you sound like you offend a lot of people. But anywho, keep your posts coming they are very entertaining and make me feel like not such a bitch lol!”

First off, you forgot a few commas, and I’m surprised you didn’t self-correct your run-on sentence, as well as your fragment. But I’ll leave that alone. After all, not everyone graduated 3rd grade.

So that’s the main question – Do I offend a lot of people? My answer? Yes, I do. All the time. But not for the reasons you are suggesting. For some reason, people in our society are afraid to be open, honest, and real with themselves. Which is crazy, because IF we were all honest with each other, I can almost guarantee that there would be a lot less tension in the world. “Open communication?” Any of that ringing a bell? Everyone’s heard the saying, “You can please some of the people, some of the time. And you can please some of the people, ALL of the time, but you can never please ALL of the people, ALL of the time.”

Listen, when you put yourself out there for others to share with you and your experiences, it’s 100% expected to receive negative reactions. But that’s par for the course. I am who I am, I do not apologize for my opinions – after all… they are like assholes, aren’t they???? Everyone’s got ’em. But if I offend someone, it’s never personal. If you read my blog posts, I never refer to specific people. Sure, I may describe a certain “type” of person, or “type” of lifestyle, but it would be beyond ignorant to assume that I’m the only one who feels that way about a particular subject. And if I polled hundreds of people who have known me since childhood, including teachers and mentors, I’m willing to bet that they would all say the same thing. “Kate just tells it like it is.”

But, let me delve further, so I may clarify what “telling it like it is” truly means. For example, if you are my friend, and you ask me a question, you do this KNOWING that I’m going to give you a blunt and 100% truthful answer. In fact, I feel it’s one of my best qualities. After all, why bother asking for someone’s advice or opinion, if all you really want is lip-service? What good does that do? I’ll tell you what it does. It makes you a FAKE friend and the reason the world, as a whole, has so many insecurities. People shouldn’t feel afraid or nervous to give an honest answer. After all, people who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. So if you’re a good person, which I like to think of myself as, then it’s my duty to tell you the truth. That’s what separates being “blunt” with being a “cunt“. Blunts (not the smoking kind), answer questions honestly and face challenges with others, head-on. If the person I’m having conflict with avoids me and the confrontation, then it’s easy for said person to then go running, like a coward, to their friends, instead of to me. I’m not violent. I’m not going to smack you in the face. It’s just a conversation.

My question to the world would be, who’s worse? The friend who tells you the truth, even if it’s not what you want to hear, or the so-called friend who only tells you what he or she knows you WANT to hear, but does nothing to improve your life or add to it. Nobody is perfect, and I can definitely take it as much as I can dish it.

Looking back, I’m sure there were times I might have made comments that were not situationally-appropriate, and 99% of the time it was completely unintentional. And when that has happened, and I have been confronted about it, I have zero problem apologizing. But what I will NEVER apologize for, is being true to my self, being true to my friends, being true to the world, and even being true to a $2 whore. I mean, at least I was honest…. and after all, isn’t honesty the best policy?